Posted by jinson on 7:18 AM 10 comments
Hello everyone...This is my first entry of Thursday Thirteen and i want to share this how to have a good manners. I read this at wikihow.com and i am surprise how many things sometimes for me it is ok but not good actually. Here are my entries:

1* Don't speak loudly. You will quickly lose respect if you do, as this is seen as overbearing and rude. It can also make others angry and upset before you even establish a relationship with them. They will see you as a 'big mouth'!, someone who cannot be trusted with things confidential. Practice turning your volume down.

2* Speak with respect to and of others by avoiding negative, insulting remarks. Avoid expressions or theoretical examples implying disrespect, degradation or that invite people to imagine offensive scenarios, like "What's up your butt?" or "How would you feel if someone..." followed by a description of violent or degrading acts. You may not intend this as offensive, but it is. General rule: if you don't want someone to speak about you that way, then don't speak this way to others.

3* Don't ever speak of bodily functions, such as using the bathroom or telling crude jokes. Even in casual conversation, this indicates immaturity and often makes bad impressions.

4* Always respect all elders, and listen to them and learn. They have been around, and can teach you plenty.
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* Using the terms 'Thank you', 'Please', and 'You're welcome' indicates good manners. People lacking in manners avoid these terms.

6* Hold open a door for anyone, male or female, following you closely. This is good manners and will never change.

7* Speak highly of your parents and show respect for them, even if you don't always feel that way. If you can't, avoid speaking about them at all. It's tacky to insult those who brought you into this world or raised you. Don't air family dirty laundry: it's tacky and rude.

8* Do not swear or use filthy language. It's unprofessional! People doing this are usually very immature and lack self-control or respect for themselves and others! Curse words not appropriate and you'll begin to feel more comfortable avoiding them. Profanity indicates an angry person and it puts people off immediately as it's distasteful and offensive. Using decent vocabulary gives the impression of intelligence, self-respect and character.

9* Greet others appropriately even if you know someone well. If you are a man, you do not want to greet a woman by saying, "Hey Baby, what's shaking?" Instead, try something like, "Hello, good morning or evening," anything making you appear respectful.

10* Try showing you are interested in others by asking questions about them. Don't steal their spotlight by just talking about yourself. Don't come off as selfish. Continually talking of yourself is boring and others will avoid you.

11* Pay attention to how you carry yourself. Have some class, which is the same as manners. Don't slouch; have a neat appearance; shake hands firmly; be and smell clean; hold your head high and don't hide behind sunglasses inside or wear other "trying to be cool" looks at the wrong time; it gives the impression of arrogance and immaturity.

12* Don't put others down, belittle them or spread gossip. Never criticize someone in an attempt to demean or to elevate yourself. If you wouldn't like it done to you, then don't do it! Be complimentary and positive, for example, avoid criticizing an article someone has written. Their grammar and spelling may not be as good as yours but they tried. Having an opinion is fine, but being insulting reflects bad manners. Never tell secrets. If someone is gossiping or belittling another, show you understand in a neutral way (a small nod to show you comprehend or an "mmhmm" should do) and then compliment that person.

13* Don't interrupt, cut off or override others, unless they are insulting or swearing, etc. Give others respect and try letting them finish; be a listener! And practice being a good one!

BUNOS* Ask for clarification properly. If you missed something someone said, or if you need clarification, ask "Could you say that again for me, please?" or "I'm sorry?" Avoid solely using the word "What?" as it's often brash and unrefined.

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Willa said...

yeah! those are really helpful not only for the young ones but also some adult could use a little manners as well, :)
and Welcome to Thursday 13!

~3 Sides of Crazy~ said...

Awesome list for all ages. Many adults have forgotten their manners and fail to pass them on to their children. We need reminders now and again.

Michelle said...

Great list!

I don't like it either when Im referred to as "Hon". I don't get that at all.

Thanks for checkin' out my WW.

Hootin' Anni said...

#4 is the best!! At least I think so. Now that I AM the elder. LOL

Great 13 for your first one!

My Thursday 13 is now posted...I feel the need for speed!!! You're invited to join me if you'd like! See ya at my place!! Have a great day.

Journeywoman said...

Very good list.

Happy TT!

She Became A Butterfly said...

i'm bad at #8 sometimes. oops.

happy tt!

she
www.shebecameabutterfly.net

Happily Retired Gal said...

Welcome to T-13! Nifty reminders for folks of all ages ;--)
Hugs and blessings,

Susan Helene Gottfried said...

Very good advice. Now if only more of us (yep, me included; I'm a horrible interrupter) would follow it!

Julia Smith said...

'Always respect all elders, and listen to them and learn. They have been around, and can teach you plenty.' - Well said!

Americanising Desi said...

i agree with all ur good manners :D

lovely!!!

happy TT

chk mine out at

http://2short2sweet.blogspot.com/2009/08/dear-god-i-love-you.html